Sunday, November 27, 2011
As most of you know 4 months ago we moved about 45 minutes away from our city and decided to move to the country. Country being 20 minutes from the nearest grocery and gas station. We're not really far out.
You would think 45 minutes from our old town, friends and activities would be no big deal. Honestly I think moving 4 hours away would have been the same. People you see daily at the gym, school, and activities keep on and you start a new routine too. It's extremely difficult to keep friendships up. That is the hard part. With the best intentions you say let's keep in touch. In most cases it doesn't happen, but for a few the friendships grow into a stronger foundation. It's work and you make it happen.
My children have encountered it too. I encourage new friendships and get them involved with new people. Luckily they have done well and are making fast friends. It breaks my heart when my son looks at his old yearbook each night as he goes to sleep. I know he's trying his hardest to move on. My oldest (9th grade) recently spent the weekend in our old town with some friends. It was a sad and hard good-bye. Lots of tears.
Change is hard, very hard. I don't adapt well to change. My old performance reviews told me so when I was working. It's no surprise.
This is the change I prayed for and yearned for. I don't regret it, it's just hard.
It's easy to throw a pitty party for myself starting over but I can't. I'm taking every chance to meet new people and throw us into our new community.
Our new church has been wonderful. We picked the city based on the church. It is exactly what we wanted and we couldn't be happier. We are meeting new friends very quickly. We finally have an overlap of school, church, and activities within the city.
When you are in a big suburb of cities it's easy to loose your city identity and not overlap friends. We really wanted to be apart of a community, let me tell you this new community is all about city pride and good ole fashioned Texas sports. That is exciting for us.
I felt I needed to write this down. I have friends that might not understand the change I've taken. All I can say is God is transforming my life.... rapidly.
I'm no longer sitting at the computer for hours, waiting in endless traffic, getting dressed up to go to the store, going to the gym daily and never feeling skinny enough. These were areas I really prayed to heal in my personally. I didn't like the person I was becoming. I was fake and easily shallow.
The rug was literally pulled out from under me and change was immediate. It's taken me 4 months to call this place home. In my mind I thought since we haven't sold our old house I could just go back. When I really thought long and hard I don't want to. I want to be where I am today.
Today we visited our old church. Bittersweet it was. I also realized on our way "home" this is where I am now and I need to embrace it and move forward.
Life has brought change and it's what we needed even if it's not what we expected. Our ultimate goal is to get to heaven. Sometimes things need to be shaken up a bit and you need to be reminded of what's really important.
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
I pulled over to the parking lot (in good sight very safe). I asked the young women if I could buy her a meal and bring it to her. She said she just ate and wanted money.
I asked her if she's getting help she listed off the charities she was even living at a local adoption agency but here she was in plain daylight begging.
What is wrong with this picture? These organizations we are funding aren't really "helping" these people.
This young women obviously needs some counseling and other help. The adoption agency will sell her baby to a family for tens of thousands and this poor mom is left homeless and helpless.
Many people just pass by and do nothing. It reminded me of the story of the Good Samaritan.
We are called in our Christan faith to help those in need. Really help them. I'm discovering simply giving money to a charity isn't enough. We must donate items and time if we are able.
I'm going to call the adoption agency and speak with them about what I saw. If you were adopting a child would you want the birth mother standing on the side of the road while your child was in their womb? It's sad. This women is choosing life and this is what she is receiving.
Thursday, May 5, 2011
One of my faults is I'm not good with change. I grew up in the same town in the same house and never moved until I got married. This is a sharp contrast to my husband. In our 10 years of marriage we've moved 6 times. We're coming up on move 7 and 8.
We put our house up on the market a few months ago. It was sparked because our son's elementary school was going to be closed to new transfers. That meant the little girls would attend a different elementary school one we dislike..... a lot.
So we took the opportunity to not just move around the corner but to move about 45 minutes away. We found a great town with great schools, church and most of all land.
During the decision process I've prayed and asked God for guidance and for his will to be done. Specifically I've prayed for the door to open if were meant to move and to shut it if not... actually slam it.
So we fell in love with house's #1 and #2 both lost to other buyers. Door shut.
In the meantime we had no interest in our home and we let our daughter try out for the drill team at our current location. Honestly, we wanted to just live and not focus on moving. It's been a dream of hers for years. So we did it and she made it. Yes, I've already gotten criticism for allowing her to try out when we're possibly moving. I've been confronted and punched in the gut (not literally) by other parents of girls who made it asking about our plans.
Seriously, who's business is it anyways?
Just as we think of waiting until next year another twist...... we have very strong interest in our home and we could be moving after all. Door open.
I find out the transfer reason isn't a reason after all.... Door ajar midway?????
I wonder what is this all about in the first place? This situation has made me evaluate many things in my life. It showed me I want a simple life, I want land, a place for the kids to play outside without fear of getting run over. I want to live in a small town where people know you. I don't want it to take 30 minutes to go 10 miles because of traffic. I want to attend a small church where it's about God not how much money you give and which side of the tracks you live on.
For many years I obsessed over moving across town to the fancy part with a huge McMansion and a fancy Lexus SUV.... really I did. Then when the opportunity presents itself it's not what I want now. My heart has changed and did a turn around. I don't want that anymore.
I have to ask myself: Did Jesus live in a fancy house with all the riches in the world. No, he didn't he was a humble servant of the people with a simple life and a simple goal of leading the world to his father.
So it's no surprise I'm being called to a simple life. It just took a big knock on the head to lead me in the right direction. Door open.......
Friday, April 22, 2011
Thursday, March 17, 2011
So much of our time is spent wanting and longing for something we are sure will make our life better or fulfilled. How long after we get this we are looking for more? How much time is spent worrying about things?
I'm so guilty, very guilty.
Recently we've been looking at moving to a smaller town. I can't tell you the stress that has entered my life. Anxiety, impatience, worry and just plain ole stress.
In addition to moving I worry about my kids, my weight, my clothes, food.... and the list could go on and on.
What does God tell us about worrying?
"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat (or drink), or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds in the sky; they do not sew or reap, they gather nothing into barns, yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are no your more important than they? Can any of you by worrying add a single moment to your life-span?"
Wow, Jesus tells us to not worry that he always provides for us. We might not have our dream home or all our worldly desires fulfilled but he takes care of us. The last line hits hard. Worrying only takes away and wastes time out of our day. Gotta think about that one....
All I can say and repeat in my head is: "Jesus I trust in you".
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
This is a photo of a sign that a planned parenthood supporter held in front of the Texas state capital. They were protesting against the Texas sonogram bill requiring that a sonogram be shown to the women before an abortion.
I wonder if this person and planned parenthood took a minute to read and think about the sign they were holding for the protest.
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
I told you I would have some stories when I started this blog. Well here we go.....
Yesterday I got an email from my 8th grade daughters Health teacher who is also a coach. He requested the kids to watch "The Bachelor" on TV. My first reaction was "here we go again". I thought long and hard about my response. I'm trying not to jump on everything as an overprotective mom, but this was a moral issue. I had to stand up.
I sent an email to the teacher and told him that I saw no educational value in this show and it represents everything wrong with what our children see on TV. I want my daughter to be modest and not provocative and promiscuous. Same goes for the boys. I don't want my son going on national TV being a player.
I get a response, usually my correspondence with school staff starts with Mrs. and my last name. Not this time. I get Ma'am, what??? Um no, I'm a parent who should be respected with a Mr or Mrs. Whew, let that one go but it further reinforces my concerns. He next tells me that he wants them to watch the show to show how bad behavior and reality shows can effect their personal health. He also said he has kids and understands why we wouldn't let her watch the show and that he doesn't like the show.
Makes no sense to me. So he wouldn't let his own kids watch it so why should mine?
This brings me to my point. As parents we have to be aware and involved in what goes on in the classroom. Just because they are at school doesn't mean they are getting the same values taught to them. This reinforces my opinion we must be open with our kids so they will talk to us.
Kate made the decision on her own that she wanted to transfer out of the class and into art. This class is where they will discuss sex education. I don't think it was heading in the right direction. Next thing, um let's watch this part of a movie just so you know what "not" to do.
Doesn't work for me!
Monday, January 24, 2011
I urge you, brothers, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree in what you say, and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be united in the same mind and in the same purpose.
What a powerful message from Paul in 1 Corinthians. We Christians were all baptized in the name of the father, son and holy spirit and believe the Lord Jesus Christ died for our sins. We are very divided today in different faith traditions and labels.
Over time the churches have broken away to form new faiths taking and changing things that the leaders didn't like.
This is not the way Christ wanted it. Imagine the possibilities if we were all able to unite together as Christians regardless of the name on our church. We all believe in the fundamentals and read the same Bible.
As a Catholic many people ask if I am a Christian, I respond with "yes of course". I believe in the same Jesus and I pray to him just like you do. We differ in our traditions and Sunday services.
None of us here on Earth are given the duty to judge who gets in the gates of heaven and who doesn't. That is a task I'm thankful for. My children have been told they are not going to heaven because they are Catholic. Where does this come from? Parents.
I think twice before I offer judgement on other faiths. There are many things we do not know and understand about each other. Let's love one another.
I don't think heaven has lines that are labeled "Baptist, Catholic, Church of Christ, Non-Denomination". We're all God's children let's work toward changing what we can with our families and children.
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Monday, January 10, 2011
We've had our up years and down years. I've thought I couldn't take anymore then somehow God gave us both strength to take one more day which turned into years.
One particular bad year where we were both at our breaking point. God put something in our path.... the movie "Fireproof".
I watched it and cried. It was exactly what we needed just at the right moment.
It was a new starting point for us. This was 2 years ago. Last year God presented us with another challenge. Bed rest for 10 weeks. I cursed and got really upset but it was a cross God brought to us.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger right? Yes, it does. My husband saw each and every duty that I did. He was to carry the heavy load of a new business and a household, plus a wife who needed to go to the Dr or hospital every few days.
He was right there next to me holding my hand when I thought and knew I just couldn't do or give anymore. With him I realized I could get through anything. What a change in perspective from 2 short years ago.
My biggest marriage savers were:
- Don't ever argue in front of the kids, take a breath and talk later. Cooling down helps things. I sometimes go get a glass of wine then discuss.
- When it comes to the children stand together, compromise.
- Say a prayer before you enter the home to see your spouse after a long day. Take a breath too.
- Take a date night away from the children.
- Spend at least 30 minutes each night talking about positive things without the kids. Remember why you fell in love with this person.
- Don't talk badly to your friends about your spouse, you can never take it back. Plus it will cause conflict between you and your friend.
- Go to church together and pray together.
My marriage is in a good place. Struggles and hardships have made us stronger together.
The seal to the family is a strong marriage. When your family stays together your children thrive in a safe and loving environment.
My husband is also my best friend. Josh, I love you!
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
Sunday, January 2, 2011
It reminds me life is short,
Love God deeply,
Follow his word in your daily life,
Love and don't take a minute for granted with your family,
Don't regret think through your decisions first,
Say your sorry,
Don't waste your time,
Forgive and move on,
Count your blessings,
Laugh and enjoy life,
Learn when to move on.... it might not be in God's plan,
Play with your kids,
Use your nice china and crystal,
Burn the candles you've been saving,
Get rid of jeans that are too small...don't worry about trying to get back into them,
Tell your friends and family how special they are,
Don't let negative people bring you down,
You don't take anything with you.... not even your clothes,
Most of all enjoy each moment as it could be your last.
What you leave behind is your memory. Think about it.... if today was your last what would people remember? What is your legacy?
The next moment it a gift, now live life the way God intended it. Not selfishly but loving.
Blessings and Happy New Year.