Monday, January 10, 2011


This is a personal post very close to my heart. This is the journey of marriage. My husband and I have been married for 10 years in February.
To say it's been an easy road would be a big fat lie, but every down time was followed by learning, correcting and growing closer together in marriage.
Here we are a few years into our marriage in 2004. Here we are in 2010. A bit older and wiser.
We've had our up years and down years. I've thought I couldn't take anymore then somehow God gave us both strength to take one more day which turned into years.

One particular bad year where we were both at our breaking point. God put something in our path.... the movie "Fireproof".

I watched it and cried. It was exactly what we needed just at the right moment.

It was a new starting point for us. This was 2 years ago. Last year God presented us with another challenge. Bed rest for 10 weeks. I cursed and got really upset but it was a cross God brought to us.

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger right? Yes, it does. My husband saw each and every duty that I did. He was to carry the heavy load of a new business and a household, plus a wife who needed to go to the Dr or hospital every few days.

He was right there next to me holding my hand when I thought and knew I just couldn't do or give anymore. With him I realized I could get through anything. What a change in perspective from 2 short years ago.

My biggest marriage savers were:
  • Don't ever argue in front of the kids, take a breath and talk later. Cooling down helps things. I sometimes go get a glass of wine then discuss.
  • When it comes to the children stand together, compromise.
  • Say a prayer before you enter the home to see your spouse after a long day. Take a breath too.
  • Take a date night away from the children.
  • Spend at least 30 minutes each night talking about positive things without the kids. Remember why you fell in love with this person.
  • Don't talk badly to your friends about your spouse, you can never take it back. Plus it will cause conflict between you and your friend.
  • Go to church together and pray together.

My marriage is in a good place. Struggles and hardships have made us stronger together.

The seal to the family is a strong marriage. When your family stays together your children thrive in a safe and loving environment.

My husband is also my best friend. Josh, I love you!


  1. We are coming up on that 7 year mark in a few weeks and I have to say we are to "that" point. I love him more than ever but things are a huge struggle right now. I have been debating a post over it all day just can't seem to get the right words out.

    Thanks for this post. Any and all advice helps when your going through the thick of it.

  2. Thank you so much for this post! This is exactly what I needed to read today.

    It is comforting to know that I am not the only one that struggles in my marriage. Michael and I had a rough 2010 and due to poor choices on my part during that time we are still struggling to this day. But not as bad as it could or should should be. We have our good days and we have our bad days. But everyday is better than the last. And my husband is the most forgiving man that I know. I am thankful that after all that I put him through that he still loves me and wants to grow old with me.

  3. Well today God has put you in my path. I needed to read that post more than you will ever know. We are in our 5th year of marriage this April and it's a second marriage for both of us. We both have kids from previous marriages and we have two together. Seven all together. We've had every brand of problem imaginable and I was almost to the point where I didn't think I could take anymore until I read your post! Thank you so much for giving me what I need to fight for my marriage and my family!