Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Gossip


I don't think I could be paid $1Million dollars to go back to junior high or high school. Those days are filled with gossip, backstabbing, lies, fakeness and insecurity. Sounds like a hit reality show!

My oldest daughters experience is the same. Each day when she gets in the car she cries and tells me how hard it is and no one likes her. Everyday there is some sort of drama. It all revolves around people talking about each other and worrying about what's going on in each others lives and loosing focus on our own.

Girls and grown women are drawn into negative gossip and chitter chatter. I'm guilty and I really struggle with this. When we talk badly of someone we can't ever take that back. I tell my daughter don't say anything about someone unless you would say it to their face. But, do I do this too? No, I'm just as guilty as her.

I don't care if your 13 or 34 it still hurts when you hear someone has said something bad about you. The best example I can make to my 13 year old is living by example. When I want to say something negative about someone I need to stop and think before I speak. It makes life simpler but not so interesting....I think boring can be good.


Proverbs 21:23

"He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from trouble"

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Inspiration and Reflection

A few weeks ago a good friend of mine lost her husband at the young age of 40. He left behind a beautiful wife and 1st grade daughter.

This really hit home, they take Will (my 7 year old) home from school each day. We absolutely adore their family. He was a vibrant man whose love of Christ was apparent. He was a youth minister at a local church. As I read her facebook I saw how many lives he touched by simply sharing his love of Christ with other people. I watched his funeral online his life inspired me to start this new blog. I want to share how I feel and what I encounter as I try to pave my way to heaven.

What is also showed me is that you really leave everything material behind. When you die your car's in the garage, your keys in the table, dirty clothes in the hamper, to-do lists un-finished, and all the other daily things we do.

Death for most comes unexpected so we must live life each day the way we are asked to by Christ. This isn't something we can do "tomorrow" it starts today.

We want to be remembered by how we loved and the lives we touch not our things. Who really cares about the purses, houses and clothes? It's all about you, the inside you. God loves us all. We all fall short and sin. God gave us the gift of his son, Jesus. He died for all our sins and all of our short comings. He then rose from the dead and opened up the kingdom of heaven for his people. This is the major connection for all the Christian religions. God wants us "red, and yellow black and white they are precious in his sight... Jesus Loves the little children of the world."

We are all children in God's eyes.

Monday, November 8, 2010

Mom's Fall Too

"When I say, "My foot is slipping", your love, Lord, holds ms up. When cares increase within me, your comfort gives me joy." Psalm 94:18-19

Motherhood is the hardest job on Earth. We are entrusted to raise up our little one's in a loving and warm environment. Sounds easy right? Before I had children I had no idea I would someday be on my knees praying for God to give me the knowledge and the strength to be a good mother. Many mothers don't discuss when we fall. We want everyone to think we're a great and perfect mom.

We have screaming kids, sick kids, fighting kids, mean kids, selfish kids, and all other sorts of crazy behavior kids. We aim to stay perfectly composed and handle the situation with the greatest of ease.... please can I met this mom because I want to know how she does it. In reality we all fall short. When we fall to our knees our Lord is there to hold us up. I love this psalm "My foot is slipping". I just in vision a mother saying this.

It goes further to say "When cares increase within in me, your comfort give me joy". As mothers we carry the burdens of our children in our hearts. From the time we find out we are pregnant or that we are getting a child until the day we leave this earth we worry and carry our children in our hearts. We must trust in our Lord and let his "comfort give me joy". Can you imagine a greater person to comfort you then our Lord?

We have up and down days as mothers. God is with us each step of the day. When times are tough and your kids are screaming and not listening, remember the "Lord is holding you up" even if you feel like your about to fall into the Grand Canyon.

Happy Monday, this week remember when you are having hard moments to seek the comfort of God..... a little prayer goes a long way. He's always listening.

Friday, November 5, 2010

Keeping the Sabbath Day Holy

"Remember to keep holy the Sabbath day. Six days you may labor and do all your work, but the seventh day is the sabbath day of the Lord, your God" Exodus 20:8-10

God commands us to keep the sabbath day holy, Sunday in our times. For many, many years it was unheard of for business to be up and running on Sundays. Now days in 2010 I can name only a handful of businesses that close on Sunday. We all get cravings to go to Hobby Lobby or Chick-Fil-A on Sunday but their Christian business owners honor the Lord Gods request.

God knows how hard we work, this is his gift to us. A day of rest. How many of us truly use it as a day of rest? Ummmm, I'm guilty of sending my kids to dance rehearsals, sports practice, doing laundry, cleaning the house, my husband catching up on work, we're very guilty of disobeying this commandment. Until a few weeks ago...

My husband and I feel very called to go back to the Bible and follow the 10 commandments. Not the 2010 norms but God's rules, free of space and time. We've reflected and talked. We've made a hard decision. We are taking a stand no more sports practice, dance practice and no labor. We will have a true holy sabbath day of rest.

It's going to be hard. Once you take a stand all kinds of opportunities will present themselves. I'm sure our kids will be told they can't compete on a team if they miss Sunday practice. This is when we will have to take a tough stand. Remember up until the past 30 years this was unheard of. Sunday has become a day of progress not rest. Is this from God?

This Sunday take a look at your activities and approach it as a blessing for a day of rest. Go to church and spend the day with your family. Take time to talk turn the TV off and enjoy each other. Not everyone is called to take this drastic stand but take one step at a time. Do as our Lord asks, just rest and thank him for your blessings.

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Lead Me Not Into Temptation

I say this part daily when I say the Lord's Prayer. That is a major commonality among the Christian religions.

When I was thinking about this verse I thought of something that really effects me.... Facebook. I have this love/ hate relationship with Facebook. It's like I'm back in high school.... everyone's doing it and I miss out on info if I'm not on.

I took a break a few months ago and it was wonderful I didn't have to hear so many people brag and go on and on about themselves. Then I got sucked back in because I do have some good friends on it and I like to look at their family pictures plus... I like to snoop around on people. OK I admit it you can see what people are doing without really talking to them.

So I was on the other day, here's where the lead me not into temptation comes in. I look at some of my high school friends pages. I instantly am thrown back into those insecure days and seeing how beautiful these girls look, their fancy homes and great lives. Of course everyone has a perfect life on FB. Everyone has the best photo to make them look great. Do you ever see a horrible photo? No! Mine is taken over a year ago. I'm guilty too!

I instantly feel fat, ugly and insecure. Five minutes before I felt like I was doing ok. I have 4 kids and some extra baby weight but who really cares?

Since most people highlight their life in photos. If someone has an event you know if you weren't invited instantly. That increases our adult insecurities.

We all have the friends who update their status 20 times a day. Do they have anything else do to? That really annoys me.

My dilemma, we refuse to let our 13 year old daughter have a facebook. It causes too much drama and I see how the kids talk bad about each other. I had a conversation with the school assistant principal about this. I'm afraid she will become obsessed with reading about others. I want to protect her as long as I can.

Back when I was in junior high we had 3 way calling with no caller ID. If you wanted to hear someone talk about about you, you would be silent and catch them in the act. I was bad doing this. I even recorded someone talking bad and played it at a slumber party. Yes, I was a mean girl.

I always thought when I grew up I would never be insecure or jealous. Old people don't worry about that stuff. Well this 33 year old women sadly still gets sucked into these feelings. I pray about it daily. I ask for God to give me graces and the message I keep hearing... "Lead me not into temptation".

Does Facebook make you feel bad at times too?

Monday, November 1, 2010

Welcome

Thank you for visiting! This is a blog dedicated to joining Christian moms of all faiths to the common good of raising good moral children in this crazy world.

God likes to use my family as an example. People who know us in real life are amazed of our constant drama. Seriously it's funny. We're always standing up for good morals. Were "that" family people point at and laugh.

I hope you join me in this humorous and very real blog. Don't worry my in real life friends I won't be using any names or pointing fingers.

"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger" that's my mom mantra. I say that in the Kanye West song "Stronger voice". God likes to put me right at the edge of craziness.